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Handling loneliness at college: Accountability

7/9/2018

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​I’ve learned that if you want accountability for things you want to change in your life, it’s important to let other people know about it. For example, I want to start doing more public speaking about mental health, so I’ve told friends and family that’s a goal of mine. It works the same way when you want to overcome any issue: share it with others and people will follow up with you on it. They can keep you accountable. As I mentioned in the last post, you’re not alone in this. So, if you feel comfortable doing so, share with friends or family how you’re feeling. If nothing else, write about it in a journal. You’re feeling lonely. That’s okay.

Now for a basic piece of practical advice on how to open one’s self to a possible avenue of making friends in college: leave the door open. I lived in a dorm for three of my four years at college. I felt out of place for most of my college experience, but I learned early on that leaving the door to my room open encouraged others to be social. Of course if you need some privacy to study or make a phone call it’s understandable to close the door. Yet it surprised me how many people would stop by and say hey or ask if I wanted to go to lunch or dinner. I’m well aware this may not lead to meeting your best friend, but every chance you have to spend time with new people is at least another possibility.
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Danielle
7/9/2018 10:29:05 am

Great advice Kurt. For students for whom this would be of interest, Hillel is also a really welcoming place on many campuses to just hang out and be around other people. On most campuses there is some kind of Friday night dinner and all are welcome.

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Kurt
7/9/2018 03:42:07 pm

Thanks for the suggestion, Danielle! Clubs and organizations are a great way to meet others on campus (and something I'll post about next week!) :-)

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